The term “one man, one woman marriage” expresses two qualifications for the reality of marriage, but does not answer the most important question – “why?” Using the term is like waving a red flag in front of a bull. For some it conjures up memories of conflicts with “gay rights” advocates and threats of intimidation, something most want to avoid. To others sympathetic to the redefinition of marriage, the term amounts to “fightin’ words” and can lead to negative conclusions about you.
Do you want to be a marriage protagonist or a marriage antagonist?
With the acceptance of no-fault divorce and the big lie that as long as the adults are happy the kids will be fine, marriage has become separated from children and family. In the minds of the majority, marriage is merely for adult happiness and public recognition of a committed relationship. This is the root of the problem that is causing young people to marry for the wrong reason or not at all, even when they have children.
Rebuilding a marriage culture must start with reintroducing its reality to our children, family members and friends. Don’t presume that they have the same understanding of marriage reality that you have.
Marriage can’t be defined by its qualifications. Recapturing the fullness of marriage, reuniting it with children and family, can only be done by focusing on what it does.
In reality, marriage is the institution that unites children with their mother and father. It not only unites a man and woman with each other, but unites them with any children born from their union.
Since marriage has been redefined by eliminating “one man and one woman” and replacing it with “two people,” it is fair to ask, “Do we need an institution that unites children with their mother and father?” That question already makes “one man, one woman” obvious without using the term. But because of the new context, the question provokes contemplation about the reality of marriage rather than conflict.